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Why Won’t You Apologize? Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts

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The renowned psychologist and bestselling author of The Dance of Anger Harriet Lerner sheds new light on the two most important words in the English language ‘I’m sorry’ – and offers a uniue perspective on the challenge of healing broken relationships and restoring trustLerner has been studying apologies for than two decades In Why Won’t You Apologize she offers com. We’ve all witnessed or likely experienced firsthand the power of an apology A sincere apology can repair damage done while an insincere or even absent apology can cause further hurt that hits us harder than the deed that should be apologized for Harriet Lerner shows us how to compose an honest and heartfelt apology receive an apology and move forward in restoring our relationships Well worth the read

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Pelling stories and solid theory to demonstrate the transformative power of making amends and what is reuired for healing when the damage we’ve inflicted or received is far from simple Readers will learn how to craft a meaningful apology and avoid signals of insincerity that only deepen sufferingIn Why Won’t You Apologize Lerner challenges the popular notion that forgiven. 5 stars Harriet Lerner's latest book is filled with points on apology the bogus apology the overlong apology holding off on the use of BUT and IF which are dealbreakers and when and how to give and accept an olive branch Earnest honest considerate apologies retain connection in relationships demonstrate respect and maturely express accountability And most people have a hard time letting go to offer an apology Lerner covers that and in her very informative book I was hoping to find something a bit different than that wise advice that it is And eventually on page 143 of this 190 page guide I did plus I'm an apologizer an anomaly in my original family It was a family that didn't talk about the big stuff a mom who shut down from my non apologizing father siblings who took cues on how to hold power and I learned to shut up and try to avoid getting in trouble My father carried and created weighty grudges My mom ran interference when she could Apologies were not modelled in that household By the time I'd married my second husband I'd realized that I wasn't a fighter Neither is my husband Neither of us had to duck the other and we could refine the art of apology listening closely and respecting each other I had a safe zone I began to take that safe zone with me in encounters with others and practiced my apologies openly where I understood I needed to Not perfection just tryingWhen a seuence of shattering episodes of power plays blaming shaming and fury blew up recently with forty year old grievances I'd never heard before I was gutted I was the fall guy for a difficult family transition and their minds were made up My original family was oddly now serene There would be no conversation with them They had said their piece closed the door I was uncomprehending I tried reason letters wishes for explanations apologies for my ignorance desire to understand notes and gifts over an extended time hoping Nothing My father's cross generational pattern of cut off had found me Losses we don't see coming are the most difficult to deal withWhen the non apologetic wrongdoer has never been accountable our reactive brain excels in rehashing grievancesA heartfelt apology allows the hurt party the space to explore the possibilities of healing instead of just trying to make sense of it all The apology is also a gift to ourselfwe cannot orphan ourselves from our first family When we cut off from a close family member that person becomes an even bigger presence inside usSo how do I go on I've travelled the corridors of grief and guilt of disbelief and utter helplessness I've struggled with irony that my family has been the centrally most important aspect of my life argued with letting go and wrestled with the knotted concept of forgiveness Harriet Lerner writes When it comes to our close relationships I agree with the words of Janis Abrahms Spring'YOU DON'T RESTORE YOUR HUMANITY WHEN YOU FORGIVE AN UNAPOLOGETIC OFFENDER; HE RESTORES HIS HUMANITY WHEN HE WORKS TO EARN YOUR FORGIVENESS' Thank you Harriet Lerner For now then I'll just breathe Five stars RECOMMENDED Valuable nuggets on a challenging social skill and relationship changer Chocolat, carnet de voyages craft a meaningful apology and avoid signals of insincerity that only deepen sufferingIn Why Won’t You Apologize Lerner Petits Chocolats Grande Expérience 3 challenges the popular notion that forgiven. 5 stars Harriet Lerner's latest book is filled with points on apology the bogus apology the overlong apology holding off on the use of BUT and IF which are dealbreakers and when and how to give and accept an olive branch Earnest honest L'ABCdaire du chocolat considerate apologies retain Chocolat: comme un chef connection in relationships demonstrate respect and maturely express accountability And most people have a hard time letting go to offer an apology Lerner Carrément pralines covers that and in her very informative book I was hoping to find something a bit different than that wise advice that it is And eventually on page 143 of this 190 page guide I did plus I'm an apologizer an anomaly in my original family It was a family that didn't talk about the big stuff a mom who shut down from my non apologizing father siblings who took Quel est le meilleur chocolat ? 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Ess is the only path to peace of mind and helps those who have been injured to resist pressure to forgive too easily She explains what drives both the non apologizer and the over apologizer and why the people who do the worst things are the least able to own their misdeeds With her trademark humour and wit Lerner offers a joyful and sanity saving guide to setting things right. This was a tough book to readit made me realize how skimpy and hollow some of my apologies have been and why they didn't elicit the responses that I'd hoped for It's a wonderful book deep insights great anecdotes that really help explain how different apologies and responses affect us interesting discussion about the possibility of forgiveness and so many ways to help understand ourselves and others I may have to buy this in the futureand mark it all up to remind me when I forget how to apologize how to handle non apologies etc

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